Subtitle: “Shake it Off!”
The main lesson I learned while working at my job (a Paramilitary Organization), is how to have a “thick skin”.
Cops always needle one another and their support staff, so no one is safe. I believe that is what’s called “gallows humor”. A police officer’s job is so stressful and dangerous that they have to crack jokes and do slapstick practical jokes, in order to lighten up the atmosphere. I also hear the same applies to all branches of the military.
It took me seventeen years to learn not to take these jibes personal, even though some might be. I’ve also learned that I don’t have to bow down and accept negativity or disrespect from anyone. Not even supervisors.
I’ve also learned to believe in myself, and not depend on others to give me accolades. To do 100% even when no one is around or cares when they are. You tend to get ignored you when you are a good worker, but, make one error and they are all over you like white on rice.
“So I spelled cat wrong,once. What about the 1,000 times I spelled it right?”
“Why don’t you compliment and encourage people when they do their job correctly, instead of lambasting them when they make one tiny error?”
The answer is always cricket chirps. . . .
Compliments go a long way to build up the moral of workers. But, constant negativity tears them down, causes employee depression and apathy. Then some supervisors want to know why people do a half tailed job, and why some call in sick all the time. Who wants to work under those conditions?
How does this translate into my writing experience? Last week while I was on Twitter, I tweeted the address of my blog site: The Story Hour, which has a few samples of my writing on it. A couple of my followers wanted to know the addy so I tweeted it out.
I get this nasty tweet back from a person or a bot which called himself/herself/itself “TheBlabbermouth” or some such other. They tell me “Your site is so bad you should call it an IT”. My first reaction was “Number one, who the heck are you?” Second reaction: “Who gives a hoot what you think?” My third reaction was to BLOCK him/her/it.
First of all, I’m not saying I don’t accept constructive criticism. I most certainly do. I would have been more than happy to accept it if they had said, the color scheme of the site didn’t look right, the lettering was hard to see or read, or my spelling was horrid, my verbs and tenses were off, etc.
My opinion? If you are going to make judgments then at least suggest constructive ways to improve the work(s). I never except criticism which completely trashes an entire work.
More then likely when a person does that, it means they haven’t taken time to read the entire work, if at all. To me, this is totally disrespectful to the author, and a total disregard for time spent writing, etc. Even though we writers and authors have computers and the digital world to assist us, it still takes time to create then transcribe thoughts into words, upload, add graphics, and so on.
So why on earth should I listen to them? So, I just shake it off, the way a duck shakes water off her back, and keep writing away.
In conclusion: I write for those who like my writing, not for those nattering nabobs who hate it. Leave it to them, I would never write another word in my lifetime.
Sad, isn’t it?
Here’s the link just in case:
The Story Hour